Wednesday, February 13, 2008

And It's Come Full Circle

Last night I had a date. Yes, an Internet date...don't judge me! Anyway, it was a date with a very nice boy I supposedly went to high school with but had no recollection of. The exciting part? He was 6'6. His pictures featured a fit, tall hunk of Jewish manhood. And he liked me, a fatty.

When we talked on the phone, I didn't really feel anything to be excited about. Yes, we had things in common, but no, nothing out of the ordinary and nothing that got my heart pounding and excited.

So, we had plans to eat and see a movie. I met him outside of the restaurant. He was definitely tall and to my surprise...FAT!

Ok, he wasn't really fat, but weight on a man that is 6'6 is weight that is going to be noticed. And to top that off, he had a huge ass. I don't even know how to describe it.

Now, you all know that I prefer men to be fat, I like it. But, this was a little overkill. Being 6'1 and fat, fine with me...but add 5 inches and something happens that just doesn't do it for me.

It was a little bit of a reversal for me. I'm always worried that although I have a picture up and I state that I'm a bigger girl over and over just so I don't confuse anyone, the guy will really not understand that I am actually fat and feel really duped, which, I know if a problem with Internet dating. But, last night, I was duped. I was totally duped. Duped, duped, duped.

I don't think we'll go out on another date. I just didn't feel anything emotionally. But seriously, I might be on to something...dating a bigger man, especially one that is 6'6? I totally felt little...which was sort of awesome.

17 comments:

JoGeek said...

Hey, send him my way already. I'm 6'1" and have an unfortunate preference for men taller than me. It isn't easy :-)

Shinobi42 said...

I'm 6' and met my 6'4 rotund man on the intertrons. You can dooo it!

Also, in the course of meeting him I met any number of guys that I really couldn't stand. They were generally traumatized when I used them for sex and never called them back. I was still getting calls from one a year later. It was completely surprising.

Stefanie said...

Chemistry has its own rules, so if you didn't go for him, well, that's how it is. But from your description, he sounds very hot. Hope you do find a big guy with whom you "click."

Di said...

No shame in Internet dating - it's the way people meet people these days. It's usually a sign of gainful employment.

I actually met my boyfriend through OKCupid, and we're doing quite well. I also met my ex husband via Internet chat. I don't really have a looks preference for men - clean, taller than me, and hygienic - but thus far no one's been particularly upset at my size. Then again, I make sure my pictures are very honest.

Anonymous said...

you two really need to get separate logins or IDs for your posts. Differentiate which one is writing. It IS possible in blogger.

TOWR said...

Anon, you just have to read the clues to find out who's who. Emily loves her a nice Jewish man, so I'm betting that by referring her date as "a fit, tall hunk of Jewish manhood," she was the author of this post.

I kind of like playing "Guess who wrote it"...

Amanda said...

wow people still read this blog with the super sporadic post...

Zaleya said...

Aww, I missed you guys. Yay for more posts.

Becky-BBW said...

Yes, the niche dating site help people much in our busy life nowadays. You can easily find people with same interests on such sites. Take plusmingle.com as example, it is catering specifically to BBWs and the men/women who admire and want to meet them. Here, size acceptance is the norm; very friendly, kind, warm and loving people gather together because they truly love and admirer plus-size folks or are plus-size themselves! We are fat, but proud!

noone said...

At least you can get a date! I'm a fat girl and fat men WILL NOT give a fat girl the time of day! I wish I could get a BIG & Tall guy!!! :'(

Anonymous said...

On one hand I could say, "There now you know what it feels like". But that is far from the truth. You found something you didn't like. Plain and simple. It's too bad though. Im 6'2 and 240. I have a bit of a paunch and starting to show a little bit of moobidge at the ripe age of 31, but its all just there to be manhandled, grabbed, clawed at, and whatnot. But I'm one of those wierdo musician types so Im no good to ANYONE. Because after all, if I write a song that involves a woman in it, it must be all about you or whoever I am dating right?

Your better off being detached.

Anonymous said...

First off I want to say I love you sight. I am a big girl also. I have been trying the internet thing for awhile too and have not had too much luck. So what do you mean you felt duped? Was he just fatter than you expected? Was he ugly? Anywho I am the opposite I love tall skinny white males ( I am a short chubby latin women) but skinny white boys dont ever seem to be attracted to me. I dont think I am that ugly, but in fact I have never been on a real date and I am 34. I was married for 12 years to an awful man and have two beautiful kids, but it just seems men dont like me....

Anonymous said...

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skinnyjoe said...

FAT ppl are lazy, unmotivated, uninspired, unambitious, no-self esteem losers.
you do NOT have a disease you fat f*ck, get off the couch, turn off the tv, shut down your computer, put away the bag of chips and ice cream, put on your sneakers and FUCKING EXCERSIZE you tub of lard.

stop sucking up all our oxygen, devour all our food, take up all our space just cause you dont feel good about yourself.

you fat lazy bums expect us to foot the bill for your impending heart attacks, diabetes, cancers. yes we foot the bill by having to pay higher taxes and higher insurance rates in general.

it costs more to transport you fat farts around, cause the heavier you are the more gasoline the vehicle will have to consume, that includes airplanes. they have should and will have a fat tax.

and no, fat people are NOT beautiful in any which way , shape or form. its not NATURAL, thats why fat people die earlier, thats why most people are not attracted to fat people, you will never be considered the mould of the human race, you will never be what God intended cause you suffer the SIN of gluttony! yes you OVERINDULGE, have no will power, are WEAK minded, and suicidal.

but, unlike people with REAL diseases, you can reverse your situation. and its pretty damn easy in theory, just STOP fucking eating and start burning more fat/calories then you consume. so simple, just do it, now, today, right fucking now!
good luck, hope to see you on the healthy side!

Ann said...

Your honestly might be what he needs. You are confident within yourself. Men usually do not talk about their feeling nor do they usually have woman who are honest with them. You are a breath of fresh air.

mesotherapy said...

Thanks for sharing your story. You sound like you have a lot of integrity.

Anonymous said...

where do you internet date?