Monday, November 07, 2005

Big-ass Booty Calls

So I used to have sex with a guy who I find really attractive, fun, and interesting. Yet our relationship never went further then sex. We would fuck, cuddle, smoke a cigarette, and then I would get up dress and leave. His doorman must have thought I was a prostitute... seriously, his doorman would wink at me when I walked to the elevator.

I was always sort of proud that I never get emotionally attached to him. But I think that I was really just scared to find out that he would never want to let the relationship progress any further because well, I'm fat, and he doesn't seem like the type of guy to have a 300 lb girlfriend on his arm.

Anyways, after a few months of not seeing him I embarked on a little light internet stalking (come on, we all do it!), and I noticed that he has some new pictures on his friendster profile ... and he got REALLY REALLY CHUBBY!!!!

This actually happened to Emily, too. She had a NonBoyfriend named Jack. He and Emily dated for a short time about 6 months ago. It ended and for some reason, she went and saw him last week. The big surprise? He (who was always "fat") was now huge! She was in absolute shock to have seen such a sight. But, still, he didn't really want her...I guess the thought of two fatties, to him, walking down the street was too much to handle.

Now, I am attracted to chubby guys, so Oliver's pic turned me on even more. But it got me thinking. This guy, lets call him Oliver, seemed to like having sex with the fatties, but all of his real girlfriends were thin. Now I want to know what his own weight issues are, and more then anything I want to get in touch with him again and have some serious sex.

But honeslty, can two fatties have a relationship without secretly thinking that their respective weight issues reflect each others? And if you only fuck fatties in secret, wouldn't your own weight gain make it more unlikely that you would out yourself?

22 comments:

Anonymous said...

300 lbs is fat! no wonder he doesn't want you to be his girlfriend! stop eating!!!

Sam said...

Damn...stop being a bitch and hiding behind anonymous. I know who you are! You're an asshole. These girls are fabulous...any guy that doesn't want them is obviously worthless...as most men are.

Angry Feminist said...

I think being fat for a man is different then for a woman. It is still acceptable for a man because it denotes power and influence and affluence, so even if he is fat, he most likely will not be into fat women because it lowers his status as a "real man".

Find a guy with balls.

Anonymous said...

OMG I have done this to fat men! I'm fat, I weigh 260, which is as much as Jerome Bettis, aka "The Bus" from the Pittsburgh Steelers. HOWEVER I have had Fat Fuck Buddies that I didn't want to be in a relationship with! I've always dated men who were tall, attractive and on the lean side...and I always said it was because they were self confident enough to go out with ME despite my weight. But maybe I had the predjudice about fat guys...I know I often thought of myself walking around with a fat guy and being thought of as a pathetic couple. Does my thin boyfriend validate me? Am I less of a loser because my man is hot?

I have also been with some men that didn't think of me "like a girlfriend" even though we would swing from the chandeliers in private and they called me their best friend. I wasn't arm candy though.

Maybe that's why I feel justified to strut around with a hot boyfriend shakin' my fat ass.

January said...

You know, I think my husband is, objectively speaking, pretty cute...and if I'm being honest, I have to admit that I like that, because it makes me feel better about myself. Like I can't be THAT bad if this cute guy is married to me, like I must have some redeeming qualities despite my giant, giant ass. When we were first dating, in my more insecure moments, I would wonder if there was actually something wrong with him for liking me. But apparently now I'm over it, and simply focus on that little feeling of superiority I sometimes get when I'm out and about with my husband. I take these small victories where I can get them, I guess...

Amber said...

I like chubby/husky type men too. They make you feel so safe and protected when they wrap their arms around you - it's a really nice feeling :). Can't really say too much on the sex side of it as I'm still a card carrying member of the V-Club... but someday, when I found out, I'll let ya know.

By the way, anonymous - you're balls called; they're looking for you. Ignorant fuck. If you're going to bother leaving a message, then at least leave a name and contact info. Grow up!

Anonymous said...

Jeez. How about creating a members only section for this stuff?

onebadjen said...

damn, i coulda wrote some of this... even down to the nonboyfriend... except me and the nonboyfriend do everything but have sex. we basically do all the stuff couples would but all i hear from him is how he wants a blonde ga peach that looks like she is about 14 and anorexic (not exactly his words, but close enough). meanwhile i have all these guys literally chasing me for i assume sex, and sex alone, even though they tell me how great and wonderful i am i just don't buy it. i already have a psycho fuckbuddy who just takes my breath away... and must be one of those private chubby chasers. either that or he doesn't care where he is getting it as long as he is getting some...
and of course almost all the guys i hang out with are lean and mean and sexy as hell, ones that if i did go out with people would wonder what is HE doing with HER???
and the one fat guy that is sweet as hell to me.. well i just don't see us naked together.
anyway i followed a link here and am glad i did. i enjoyed the entry and reading the comments... its nice to know i am not the only "fat chic" in this quandery.

as far as the comment about eating, isn't it funny that they always assume its that? or that we are lazy? as for me, chemotherapy (i got pumped full of steroids) and polycystic ovarian disorder did me in. when trying, i can get down to 220lbs but for the most part i hover at the 250 mark. it generally doesn't bother me but my doctor gives me hell.

Regina said...

I think this blog should stop accepting anonymous comments. It seems to bring out some really horrible and cowardly behavior, like the first comment here.

floradoragirl said...

As for Anonymous way up at the top
I can only say one thing to you:

"You are a damn coward...you won't even put your name down! If you only come to this blog to feel bloody superior and tell people to stop eating, I suggest you move your miserable ass somewhere else where they accept comments from jerks like you!"

And, as for myself, I have a weakness for really tall guys, because they make me feel safe too. My fiance is 6'6" and he makes me feel tiny (even tho Im not) and I think its silly that there are so many guys out there on the net who desire larger women in secret, but won't want their buddies to find out. (or whoever)
I think you deserve a great guy who will be proud to have you on his arm - whether you weigh 300 pounds or not!
You ARE worth it! (no matter what ignorant ass****s like Anonymous #1 up there has to say)
Keep up the good work gals! Most people really love the blog!

z. said...

Please do not restrict the comments to blogger members only. I've tried and tried to get that damn blogger profile but the fucking site hates me.
And that way, we can all get together and point and laugh at the stupid ball-less anonymous commenters. Consider it like a bonding experience of sorts :)

Anonymous said...

"chemotherapy (i got pumped full of steroids) and polycystic ovarian disorder"

Huh? Is this a new internet obesity urban legend?

fatty mcgee said...

All right folks,
We are not restricting this site to members only, but honestly, whoever the anonymous person was who talked shit about the woman who was on chemo has some really serious issues, and should spend their time in therapy rather than on this blog.

Jmail2003 said...

Hey I'd just like to say that it seems to me that alot of you who post on here love those tall thin dudes but think something is wrong with short fat guy. Now I am not trying to dictate to you all who you should and should not find attractive but if you are one of those people who goes out with tall thin "fuck buddies" who may or may not even like you as a person, then arent you being a little slanted in your choices?

I am am a guy who loves women of all sizes shapes and colors and would never categorize any of my past girlfriends as fuck buddies. What I am really trying to say is give us big guys a chance, You dont have to be 6'+ and thin to make the bed rock!

Anonymous said...

I don't think anyone is saying that it's better to be with someone tall and thin who doesn't like you as a person. But it's also perfectly okay to hold out for someone who both likes you as a person and is physically attractive to you. It's great that you're attracted to all kinds of women, and I'm glad to hear that you treat them well. But some of us, especially in between long-term relationships, just want to go to bed with someone hot, and we can't control who we find attractive any more than we can control our height. I like my tall, thin(ner than me) fuck buddy precisely because I don't want a relationship with him. It's just hot sex. If he were 100 pounds heavier, I don't know whether or not I'd be attracted to him, but I do know that I'd be doing myself a disservice if I slept with someone I wasn't attracted to, just as I'd be doing myself a disservice if I slept with someone who treated me badly or wasn't attracted to me. Love and sex are sometimes separate, but in both cases, people need to be free to make their own choices about who to be with without feeling like they're being judged based on their partner's looks.

fatty mcgee said...

I would just like to state that Lindsey and I PREFER fat men. They're HOT!!! You Go Fat Men!!!

Anonymous said...

Thank-you for allowing people to comment anonymously. I prefer to.

I'm fat too, & I rarely overeat. I'm not keen on exercise, however.

There are plenty of people who don't exercise & who eat a lot of food, & they're still thin. Size is not determined by food intake & exercise alone.

I don't actually know why I'm fat. My theory is that my fatness was caused by a combination of genes, hormones (too much oestrogen probably), not enough sleep, too much stress, a virus or more than one virus, & not enough vegetables, nor regular exercise.

Amazing how critical people can expect us to 'lose weight' but don't say how - unless they say to eat less & exercise more. What if we're already exercising for 40 minutes every day, & not overeating?! Do they expect us to wave a magic wand?!

windy said...

awww, God didn't want everyone to be the same anyway. It's society and always has been society who have young girls as young as 8 or 9 thinking if you're not slim then no one will want you. *BullShit* And those are the same people who add to those McDonalds commercials to attract kids. Give it up & don't worry, just be yourself and love yourself, and then the beauty comes from within. You all are beautiful !!

Mindy said...

Whoa!!!! Speaking as a "thick" girl myself!!! I'm just saying that is some asshole thinks that you are good enough to screw, but good enough to be seen with on his arm, then you are meeting the wrong men, girl!!!! This is kinda ironic, but I tend to be more attracted to skinny guys!!! I weighed 220,BEFORE I got pregnant, and My husband is all of 145 lbs. And if I do say so myself, I think my husband is a hottie! One thing he has never done is act like I wasn't good enough or small enough!

M said...

As a couple people up there have said, I, too, feel validated by the conventional good looks of my boyfriend. I don't know...it makes me feel not-pathetic, somehow.

I wish I had more fat female friends, but I feel self-conscious being with fat women. Of course, I also feel self-conscious being the only fat person in a group, so...catch-22?

alice said...

I've been the chubby one in the secretive relationships, and I've got to say that I think that the shift to being 'out' about it would be a pretty significant shift, at least for the folks I knew. Unless the weight gain had made them reevaluate their opinions of weight/appearance, I don't think that it'd have an impact.

I do think that there's the potential for a lot of extra baggage when you've got two heavy folks togther. I feel self conscious when I'm going out with the heavy members of my family in a way that I don't when I'm going out with the more normal sized folks. For me, it's because they've got a pretty Middle America look to them, and I feel like we're a walking illustration of all those 'America Gets Chubby' articles. When I'm with the thinner (or more unusual looking) friends and family, I don't have the same feeling. We're individuals, dammit! (or so my issue-laden brain likes to think.)

Nyxalinth said...

'But some of us, especially in between long-term relationships, just want to go to bed with someone hot, and we can't control who we find attractive any more than we can control our height.'

This, right here, is why I haven't been with anyone in nearly four years. I am not snobby-picky, but I like what I like, and even for a fuck-buddy, what I want is what I want. what I want is rarely attracted to me in turn, though, yet I get all the wrong sorts (desperate, creepy, married men looking to cheat, sometimes just EWW) attracted to me instead.

I just wish I knew how to turn it around!