Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Wanted: Beer Bellies

These are a few of my favorite things:

Nice sheets with high thread count
Bad television
Vacations
Fat Men...I love fat men

I have always been attracted to fat men. I think that even if I was skinny, I'd still love fat men. I've tried to be open about this. I didn't think it was fair to discriminate based on weight. I mean, come on, how hypocritical would that be? But, when I tried to date a man who was much smaller than me, a whole world opened up.

I went out on a date with a very nice man. He was smart, funny and we had a very nice time together. We went to dinner and then went back to my house to watch a movie. It was when we started to make out when I had this realization. He took his shirt off and I caught a glimpse of his tiny waist, which obviously isn't a bad thing, but I just didn't find it attractive. And I got uncomfortable and thus, that ended our evening.

I thought about this for a while. He was very nice, but the attraction element was missing. I was still yearning and longing for a large man. And coming to this realization has helped me out a lot. I understand now that the men who don't find me attractive because of my weight are right in doing so because they just don't find that element of me attractive. If they're not finding me attractive because of social stigmas, well, that's just wrong and a different story. But, I have come to understand that people have different tastes and that fat girls might not be on their lists of things to do. It's nice to know what you like and anyone should feel free to go after what they want.

I feel very free about this new found look on life. It's very empowering. And, to all the fat men out there in Los Angeles: I'm single and looking to mingle. And, if you're in New York, give Lindsey a nice little shout out...she likes the biggens too.

18 comments:

monica said...

i like em in all sizes, lol. do prefer them with more weight on them, i just always feel "larger than life" when I'm with a smaller man ya know, LOL.

Anonymous said...

I completely understand how you feel!! And I feel the opposite!

I like a man with some 'meat' on him - I don't wanna feel like I'm going to break some poor man in two!.. but with MY meat + his meat? well, that's just too much meat for most men to deal with!

I'm a big girl! I've got a big tummy and 2 big tummys trying to bump uglies? well - being practical - it just doesn't work! Not to mention that rarely does anything grow in the shade (sorry guys, but it's true). Being overweight means that whatever he'd have if he was a thin man is being swallowed up by some portion of a fat pad. It ain't pretty to think about - but that's how it is....

So while I'm not attracted to stick figures, someone my size just doesn't do it for me either.....call me picky!

Tim said...

Being a chunky guy I gotta say 'THANKS' for the kind words, and there's nothing being 'swallowed' up by this guy :) But I'm also not that fat....yet :)

~pal~ said...

my feelings exactly... my boyfriend is smaller than me now.. but hes always complaining that he needs to lose weight!!! im like.. no baby.. you need to eat some of this...

Fat Mom On A Mission said...

The only difference I see in the discrimination is bigger people are more accepting to all sizes. Skinny people tend to make fun of fat people, but rarely do I ever hear a fat person making fun of a skinny person. I like all sizes, but I can't see myself with a stick. I like 'em larger. That might be because of my size...I have never been thin enough to know if I like skinny guys.

BTW, you have a great blog. I enjoy reading it.

Meghan said...

I like bigger guys too, and I always wondered if maybe I liked them bigger because I was bigger and figured they would be more likely to like me because they understood that just because I was fat I wasn't gross, lazy, etc.

But now I'm thinkin...maybe I just like bigger guys cause there's more to cuddle with :)

DK said...

ok..for me its just plain preference. I prefer a bigger guy..but not a fat guy. As Monique said in her comedy routine; "fat folx cant *uck"... I've tried it, and its true. *very recently I might add* Yes, I still have a belly even after loosing a lot of weight. My ex was 5'4 I'm 5'7. I loved him, but never got over the big girl/little guy complex. That was my bad, not his. My insecurity. Still have it too. I like a bit of a budda belly..but not a meat curtain as we call it up here in the NW..I still got enough for the both of us!

Anonymous said...

My husband is naturally skinny (I'm not ... at all.) But now that he's getting older, he's starting to gain a little bit of weight, and it's UNBEARABLY cute.

Anonymous said...

I dated a skinny guy once, it just wasn't pleasant. It just didn't feel like there was anything there when I hugged him, and cuddling? Just forget about it. Cuddling = bruises with that sort of man.

But I'm not really that large of a girl (just the edge of the BMI scale between overweight and "normal"... whatever normal is...) and yet I still like the bigger guys. I think I always have. I even liked characters like Monterrey (or whatever his name was) on Chip N Dale's Rescue Rangers instead of Chip or Dale....

Anonymous said...

I love guys who are lean and tall! My fiance is six six and weighs about 210. I find him perfect, and yes, I do feel tiny next to him, even tho Im not really tiny!
My last serious relationship my boyfriend was six five.
I love 'em like a tall drink of water on a hot desert!

Michelle said...

You're such a chubby chaser.
If you know what I mean.
And I think you do.

mainja said...

i like 'em short and stout. stalky men are my dream.

but i can be attracted to pretty much anyone if the personality is there.

but i have a friend who is much the same, in terms of liking her men big and not at all interested really if they're not.

Anonymous said...

I'm a skinny guy who likes big girls. Where's the love?

Slimchic77 said...

I'm an average size girl or at least I think I'm average (5' 6", 140lbs) and I LOVE big boys. I dated several skinny guys through high school and college and even thought I might be gay because I just wasn't attracted to the men sexually...until I met a big boy. OMG! I love a man with a belly and love handles. Definitely not a meat curtain (thanks for introducing me to that term), but lots of extra meat.

Anonymous said...

hey skinny ;) thanks for the love

Laura Bora from Bufadora said...

I like men of all shapes and sizes...I think it's that element of attraction you are talking about. I've dated big dudes, tall dudes, tall SKINNY dudes, short skinny dudes, short chunky dudes...whoever had that certain something that made me wag my tail. Current beau is a marathon runner but has some meat on him...not overweight just deliciously fleshy. My previous beau was 6'5" and 185 and told me once, "Every time I see you with (something fattening) in your hand I want to smack it out of there." Nice, huh? That's why he's an ex.

Butterfly said...

I'm a big girl, but oddly enough, I've always been attracted to skinny guys! I've dated one big guy in my life, and I was honestly not attracted to him!! I feel so guilty for even admitting that. It's kinda hypocritical of me, a plus size chick myself, saying that I've never been attracted to a big guy!!! Isn't that ironic!!!!

Marly said...

I LOVE EM SKINNY!!!
I'm about average weight but I really love bony, skinny guys. My FWB was 130 pounds at 5"8... Very sexy :)